We’re conditioned to believe that success is good and failure is bad. It’s the basis of every career decision we make. With this mindset avoiding failure can become an obsession and cause you to make decisions out of fear, which is never a good way to live and rarely leads to success.
Well, I’m here to tell you that failing in your career can be the very thing that creates real success. It’s the reason I look so happy in this picture and here’s why …
I’ve been self employed as a speaker, coach and facilitator for over 20 years. During that time I’ve written 5 books, won awards, visited 8 countries, travelled business class, stayed in luxury hotels and been the VIP at events signing autographs and posing for photos. I’ve owned an inner city apartment and a sports car. Sounds impressive.
Well, it was until it all disappeared. I went from wondering how I could live without valet parking to wondering how I was going to pay for petrol. I don’t know how it happened but I fell asleep at the wheel.
Over the years I’d had more than a couple of dips. I would go up and then crash, then up and another crash. I just thought it was because I hated business development but I was wrong.
The first sign that my dream career had become a nightmare appeared in early 2015. I found myself on the board of my professional association and they wanted me to be National President but I declined because I knew I was an imposter. I started to wake up with the help of a psychologist and explored a new direction for my career but it got too hard so I pressed snooze and went back to my comfort zone.
As always things started to get better … for a while.
Finally in February 2018 my biggest ever client pulled the pin on our project without warning or explanation and I was so focused on them that I had nothing else. I had failed by anyone’s definition.
What I’ve learnt
I believe that this failure is the best thing that could have happened to me. You see, it forced me to confront a situation I’d been avoiding for a long time. I could have done what I usually do and pass it off as another dip and kept going but I didn’t. Instead I stopped and looked at every part of my life because I was sick of hiding under the covers. Finally I had the courage to wake up.
Where to from here
I’m now heading in a new direction that energises me and let’s me be authentic. I’m far happier than I have been in a long time having removed my financial stress by finding a way to spend less so I can focus on creating my dream career.
I don’t believe that anyone should wait as long as I did to wake up. I think I was waiting for a major life altering event to spur me into action. Who wishes for that? Eventually I realised I didn’t need one. I just needed to decide to wake up and live life on my terms. It’s the same for you.
That’s why I’m now going to focus my business on helping other people to wake up and live their dream career. To find out if you need to wake up take my free Career Wake Up Call Quiz. If you know someone who could use my help send them a link.
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